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My daughter came to me a few weeks ago stating that she saw the angels again. This time she saw seven! And one came to her and spoke with her...My daughter came to me a few weeks ago stating that she saw the angels again. This time she saw seven! And one came to her and spoke with her. Shortly after this my family started experience some spiritual attacks. Strange sickness started afflicting some of my children and my husband. I began praying fervently and praying the scriptures. Needless to say God intervene and deliver my family. Show more
A do it yourself kids party drive-in theatre! Sometimes it is the simple things in life that matter the most.
Have anyone ever had a specific time of the year that they experience severe spiritual attacks. For the past few years I am starting to see a...Have anyone ever had a specific time of the year that they experience severe spiritual attacks. For the past few years I am starting to see a pattern of attacks launched against me and my family. During this time of year! When we overcome one battle seems to be another brewing. But I thank God he gives us victory by the power of his name. So many questions to this🤔 Show more
My seven year old daughter, came to stating she is seeing angels at her bedroom window going up and down in the clouds. My other kids were adamant...My seven year old daughter, came to stating she is seeing angels at her bedroom window going up and down in the clouds. My other kids were adamant about it. She became so angry because they are telling her she is not seeing that. I believe her and showed her the scriptures after she told me this. Jacob saw the same! How do you approach this?🤔 Show more
Many of us struggle everyday. It can be something that is happening right now in our lives or it can be something in the past that is still...Many of us struggle everyday. It can be something that is happening right now in our lives or it can be something in the past that is still hindering our "today" and our future. Satan attacks the mind he wants your thoughts to be anything but positive. He knows how powerful the mind can be it determines our emotions, how we feel, how we think, and the memories can flood through and it is always the bad memories. That is how we categorize them as BAD. We have to stop thinking of them as bad and start thinking of them as lessons. A lesson learned so that we can be and do better. Ask yourself how did I get here? Then ask God to help you deal with it and learn from it. Give it to him and he will help you work through it and be who he needs you to be. Stronger and wiser to serve Him do His work. Let Him speak to you!
I found this yesterday I do not know who wrote it but I thought it was worth sharing.
Many choose to waste their time wishing for a different kind of life, filled with all sorts of aspects missing from their current circumstance. When you do that, you are forsaking the brilliant life that I have already constructed. Can I not turnaround what you are certain will never shift or change? Do not allow your mind to be the block. I am not finished with you yet! Where you are today is for today. Tomorrow you have yet to see. Some of your greatest gifts and blessings will come out of moments that you would rather remove from the story line. If you haven’t put it in My hands yet, how will you know what I will do with it?
No, it was not My desire or will for you to go through waves of struggles or tragedy, but Am I not the keeper of your days? Will I not come through to destroy the schemes of the enemy? The condition of your heart matters, and I will put My Healing Balm on all of the war torn areas. You will become more, than what you would have, if these battles never touched your shores. Let Me have all that sorrow, and I will throw it as far as the East is from the West. You may not be able to change what happened, but I will waste nothing in your life and beauty from the ashes is My delight. There is nothing stopping you in reality. What you see as limitations, I see as a chance for Me to show up and show out on your behalf. Never underestimate what I will do in your life. Show more
Do you ever feel too flawed for God to use you? Do you want to serve but wonder if God uses the broken? Here are 4 reasons why God uses flawed...Do you ever feel too flawed for God to use you? Do you want to serve but wonder if God uses the broken? Here are 4 reasons why God uses flawed people!
1. He chooses flawed people because that is who we can most identify with. We relate to those people. We can’t relate to the holy and righteous Pharisees…no, but we relate to Peter though.
2. He chooses flawed people because their flaws make them see their need for a Savior.
3. He chooses flawed people because they have no cause to boast. They HAVE to rely on grace. If He chose a skilled orator and leader to lead the children out of Israel, he might have assumed to have done it through his own skill and leadership and not given the glory to God. Had Peter been a righteous and holy man, he may not have seen his need to lean on God and taken the credit for himself. There’s no question, when you are flawed, that it was GOD who did the work THROUGH you and not you on your own!
4. God chooses and uses broken people to show us that He can equip anyone to do His work. We can look at Moses and see that we don’t need to be a great speaker or a skilled leader to do God’s work. Show more
Their intentions are to bring the worst out in you. Keep friends and family in your life that bring out the best in you. Most of all those who bring...Their intentions are to bring the worst out in you. Keep friends and family in your life that bring out the best in you. Most of all those who bring you closer to Yeshua! Show more
Stay strong no matter what is going on in your life and remember God is with us every step of the way. - feeling love
Sometimes we do not realize that holding on is hurting us more than letting go. This was hard for me at first but the more I learned and came to...Sometimes we do not realize that holding on is hurting us more than letting go. This was hard for me at first but the more I learned and came to Yeshua the more I understood this. Show more
Hate is something that will eat you alive. What ever it takes get rid of it, forgive, pray for those that have hurt you. Let God put back together...Hate is something that will eat you alive. What ever it takes get rid of it, forgive, pray for those that have hurt you. Let God put back together what they have broken. God is not blind to what they do or have done and he will deal with them accordingly in His time. Move forward and be obedient to the Word. This is when true healing begins and you will be blessed! Show more
Let it all go!!
"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not...Let it all go!!
"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." (John 14:27) Show more
It takes a long time to get over betrayal. Be kind to yourself and talk to God daily about it. It's not easy but it can be done, and you're going to...It takes a long time to get over betrayal. Be kind to yourself and talk to God daily about it. It's not easy but it can be done, and you're going to have set backs. Just remember that the real TRUTH is not what they tell anyone. The truth for them is a whole bunch of lies they spew to serve their own Narcissist agenda… Don't feel replaced, remember, they will do this to everyone.No one is special to them. But you are special to GOD and that is all that matters. Show more
I remember my childhood, fetching water from the nearby village with my friends. It taught me to appreciate the simple things in life. God was...I remember my childhood, fetching water from the nearby village with my friends. It taught me to appreciate the simple things in life. God was molding me through out this process to be thankful in all things. I was born in Guyana, but came to the US in my teenage years. I give God thanks 🙏 Show more
To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord , that he might be glorified. 6 months ago
When everyone one around you leaves and you lose everything. God is all you need to start over! - feeling blessed
I know I have already posted this, but I wanted to re-post in the Life Lesson Group.
Matthew 12:33 “'Either make the tree good, and its fruit good; or make the tree bad, and its fruit bad; for the tree is known by its fruit.'”
The...Matthew 12:33 “'Either make the tree good, and its fruit good; or make the tree bad, and its fruit bad; for the tree is known by its fruit.'”
The topic of how a Christian is supposed to deal with being in a relationship with a very emotionally unhealthy and unsafe person is important because it highlights many significant pitfalls. The reason this becomes an issue is due to the fact that biblical teaching is often taken out of context and used to justify and enable bad behaviors in people.
What are Christians supposed to do when interacting with toxic people? I think remembering a few key points is very helpful.
A Tree and Its Fruit
Matthew 7:17 says that we will know a good tree by its fruit and a diseased tree by the fruit it bears. If you find yourself in a toxic relationship but are having trouble with setting what you know to be healthy boundaries, think about the fruit of your interactions with the abusive person. Do you feel anxious, not like your normal self, depressed or like you are living in a chaotic emotional tornado? Is that good or bad fruit? We both know the answer to that question and it’s bad fruit. Bad fruit produced by a bad tree.
God Will Change Him/Her
Sorry to be so short and blunt about it but God will not change a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. How do I know this to be true? Because I have never, not once, ever, never seen someone changed by God who didn’t want to be changed. Think about it for a minute. Has anyone ever gone to bed a complete high-grade jerk and woke up radically transformed into the loving image of Jesus? Nope. Now I have seen a whole lot of people do a whole lot of praying and soul searching and surrendering and the such and then became completely new people. It’s actually one of my favorite things about the blessings of God. Narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths don’t think there is anything wrong with them. It’s part of their disordered thinking that convinces them everyone else is wrong. They are incapable of change. Don’t believe me? Think about a clinically narcissistic person and the truly positive lasting change that occurred within them. I spent 5 long years trying to help someone change and every step of the way was with Bible Study, reading the Word, offering emotional support in every way I could. Even sent her to a Christian therapist at a church. Which only made things worse not better. Why? Because she never saw her self as the problem all the wrong she had done and was doing was completely justified. The more God came into her life the worse she got. Why? Because God requires true repentance to be changed. That would mean she would have to admit she was wrong and stop justifying it.
As Christians, we have to remember that scripture says that God is a gentleman and will go where He is welcomed. He doesn’t kick down doors to get to people who feel they have no need for Him. So if you’re staying stuck in a toxic situation with a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath and waiting for God to instantly change him or her, you are seriously wasting months if not years of your life. Trust me I did it and it caused more harm to my family that it did good. So you have to accept the fact that that you have to NOT give up, you have to walk away. Thinking differently is a trap and can become a prison cell in which people stay self-imposed.
I Need To Lead Him /Her To Christ
When the topic of setting boundaries with toxic people comes up, I often hear Christians say that they are concerned about turning their backs on someone because they see it as their duty to lead that person to God. Yes it is, but there is an old saying "You can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink". Lead them to the water yes, but it is up to them if they drink the living water Christ has to offer.
Staying safe and not becoming a door mat is vitally critical to our own well being. God does not want you to be abused like this. Once we lose our joy and our hope and our peace, we certainly can’t share the blessings God has given us. You have allowed Satan to steal from you. So there is a fine line we as Believers have to walk. There comes a time when God does want you to think only about yourself and let that person go. If the narcissist, sociopath or psychopath in your life is causing or has caused you to be less sparkly than you once were, how can you expect to live the life you were given as a gift?
When Christians say that they don’t want to set needed boundaries because they are giving up on someone, well they are being egocentric to think that they and they alone are only who God can use to bring change into the toxic person’s life. We have to be very careful when lies start whispering that we must be the one who brings truth to a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. When we start thinking this way, we have enslaved ourselves to more abuse in all its various forms.
If you are a Believer and in a toxic relationship, ask yourself what fruit is this relationship bringing to your life. Good fruit or poisoned fruit? Remind yourself that people only change when they see a need and are willing to change. Lastly, you are not the only person on the planet who God can use to reach toxic people. As I said before it is almost impossible for these people to change. Study on the characteristics of these three types: narcissist, sociopath or psychopath their issues are so deeply rooted and dark that "yes" only God can change them if they allow him to. But when you have delivered everything you can to them from God and they still have not changed? Then you have to move on.
Does a particular toxic person come to mind and what boundaries do you need to set in order to fully enjoy your life again? Show more
I have learned this the hard way. I thought detaching at one time was giving up on someone. But that is not the case. Detaching it is how we protect...I have learned this the hard way. I thought detaching at one time was giving up on someone. But that is not the case. Detaching it is how we protect ourselves. Sometimes we get so caught up in helping and saving others. We end up hurting ourselves. Show more
I grew up Orthodox Jew. When I was born again I hid it from my family for about a year. When they found The Holy Bible in my room they kicked me...I grew up Orthodox Jew. When I was born again I hid it from my family for about a year. When they found The Holy Bible in my room they kicked me out. Jerry took me in and has been a blessing to me.
Over the the past 2 years they have not reached out to me. I miss them but I can not walk away from Yeshua so I can be back in the family.
Should I reach out to them and see if they have changed? Should I move on and let them come to me? I do not want to put myself through the pain if they have not changed by accepting that I am now a Believer in Christ as our Messiah.
Advise? Show more